Dear Diary, (warning – that’s the kind of post this is)
Posted by Karen in Broomball, Day to Day, Family, Tonsillectomy, Weather.Sunday, February 3rd, 2008 at 10:22 pm
So I realized I have been kind of hating winter. Winter is so long here that even for fans like me, the thrill of the cold crisp air and the beauty of ice crystals and snow flakes fades after awhile, and then you need things like broomball and snowshoeing to see you through. Well we haven’t gotten any good snow for like 2 months, and el tonsillectomy caused me to remove myself from the Grim Sweepers for the season. Everybody wants to be a Sweeper (duh), and I didn’t want to take up a spot on the team just in the hopes of getting well enough in time to get a few games in.
However, once I started experiencing serious dread every day at dog-walking time just because I SOOOOO didn’t want to go outside, I realized I was in desperate need of some winter fun. So I decided to go to broomball practice and see how it went. I had been working on getting myself back in shape, riding our elliptical, jogging little bits with Bruno, so I felt ready. I thought, I’ll just play goalie, take it easy, it’ll be fun. It wasn’t fun. It was terrible.
I should have seen it coming when I was flooded with sheer terror just walking from the car to the ice. But at that point I was already committed. I let 3 goals in a row go past me, and I felt like I just stood there and watched them. Tears welled up in my eyes and it was all I could do to not have a total meltdown. Nate, having knocked in 2 of those goals, came up to me to see how I was doing, saw the tears, heard me say "Idon’tlikethisI’mnothavingfunIwannagohome!" and realized he needed to switch teams. Smart boy. I took a moment to breathe and reflect, and realized that if I let 3 goals go in, started crying, and went home, I would be THE BIGGEST LOSER EVER. So I rallied. Second half was better, and finally we got to go home. And then I cried.
I realized with shock that I was terrified of blood shooting out of my throat. I logically know that I’m out of that window and no longer at risk of that happening again. But the illogical part of me can’t stop seeing it and thinking it’s happening. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve spit into a sink or on the sidewalk, just to check. But it wasn’t until that practice that I realized it. So Nate and I talked about it a bunch, and I did a good bit of thinking on it, because I was pretty freaked out about being that freaked out.
And then Tuesday’s Sweepers game came. They were going to be short girls, so they had asked a girl from our buddy team, the Skraelings, to play, and Nate had asked a girl from his Walker team. But that afternoon she told him stuff had come up and she’d rather not play. Meanwhile, the temperature was dropping, the wind was increasing, and we were heading for a roughly -10 degree, windy night, with windchills at about -35.
Sierra had been frantically chatting Nate and I throughout the day, saying things like, "They’re totally going to cancel it, right? I mean this is insane!", and " I don’t understand why I am the only one freaking out about this!!!" It was suddenly very clear to me. Either Sierra was going to bail and the Sweepers would be really short on girls, or she was going to go and face one of her greatest fears (being outside in subzero weather), and the Sweepers would still be a little short. Either way, how could I not go?
Sierra did not bail, and her courage gave me the inspiration I needed to face my own fears. I had to get out there too. So we went, we froze, we lost. My heart felt like it was going to pound right out of my chest the whole time, but that probably just helped me stay warm! In spite of letting in a few goals, I felt like I did ok overall, and was absolutely ecstatic at the end of it, because I DID IT. I felt like myself again.
I’ve had a few frighteningly realistic nightmares over the last few weeks involving lots of blood in my mouth, most recently Friday night. So Saturday morning I went to broomball practice again, and made it a point to only spend about half my time in the goal, and the other half running around on the ice. I needed to drill it into my brain that I am physically fine, not in quite as good of shape as I was pre-tonsillectomy, but fine. Now I just need my mind to catch up with my body.
(If you haven’t already, you HAVE to click on that picture of Cody. It’s amazing! Everyone looked some version of that by the end of the game, it was pretty crazy.)
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